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Written by DeadGirl
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Thursday, 14 April 2005 |
A case questions the concept of social legacy.
Anirban Das Mahapatra reports
Death, as Gabriel Garcia Marquez once wrote, is “an unavoidable professional hazardâ€. Unavoidable, yes. Professional... well, that’s subjective. But as for the ‘hazard’ bit, no one perhaps knows better than Madhu Vijayan, though passively so.
Two weeks after the death of his father, the renowned cartoonist and litterateur O.V. Vijayan, Madhu is awaiting justice in a case that has questioned the concept of social legacy in the country. And while the litigation comes up for hearing at the Delhi High Court on April 14, few can conclusively say whether the only son of the deceased artist will eventually stand vindicated. The 35-year-old himself doesn’t know when he will be able to return to Los Angeles — where he has resided for the past 20 years — to get back to running his private equity fund. “Legal procedures take time, after all,†he says with a sigh.
It was in Madhu’s absence that Vijayan’s funeral was conducted by Ravi Shankar, the artist’s nephew, in the family’s native district of Palakkad in Kerala. Madhu holds that Shankar, also a cartoonist by profession, took charge of the ashes after the funeral. And he stresses that Vijayan’s family has not been on talking terms with Shankar for long.
“I was too overcome by my emotions to attend my father’s funeral, and thus chose to stay back in Hyderabad and let Ravi Shankar oversee the proceedings,†explains Madhu, who had flown in the day before his father’s death. But that doesn’t make him any less of his being his father’s son, Madhu argues. “And by virtue of being his heir, there’s no question of forfeiting my rights to his mortal remains.â€
Ravi Shankar doesn’t wish to speak to the press on this any more. He points out that the matter is subjudice. The law, the two sides would hope, will take its own course. But what remains unsaid is, is there a proper course that can be taken?
Several Delhi-based lawyers admit that the petition filed by Madhu at the Delhi High Court could well be unprecedented in Indian legal history. “To the best of my knowledge, such a case has never come up before the court in the past,†says lawyer Vrinda Grover. “And since this is more of a social dispute, there isn’t any legal statute specifically laid down to deal with it,†she says. The only option the jury has in such a situation is to perhaps go through documents that Vijayan has left behind, such as a will, in order to find out if the right to his ashes has been accorded to a particular person, says Grover. “But it has to be a just and fair hearing, and the court has to ensure that it doesn’t lead to a confrontation between the parties,†she says.
Clearly, it’s an indication that the law is partly restrained in dealing with a case that transcends legal borders to dwell in the realm of social customs. “A social dispute needs to be solved socially, and legal right to things such as one’s ashes can only be ascertained if established by custom,†says lawyer Rajeev Dhawan. “Hence, in the Vijayan case, the legal course of action would possibly be grounded in social custom,†he adds.
And social customs are debatable. Dhawan cites the controversy that was generated a few years ago when Lakshmi Parvati, widow of former Andhra Pradesh chief minister N.T. Rama Rao, was prohibited from participating in the politician’s funeral by her step-sons. “It was like stretching a social dispute too far,†says Dhawan. “And had it come to court, it could have sparked its own set of critically poised questions.â€
So by opting to stay out of his father’s last rites, Madhu may have socially put himself at a disadvantage, Dhawan wonders aloud. “The equity may not entirely be in his favour now, unless the will says otherwise. Social responsibility may have a part to play in solving the dispute,†he says.
Besides, one could also argue if mortal remains were a part of a person’s estate, which could be willed, Dhawan points out. An affirmative answer to that question could then help veer the issue back into the legal framework. On the other hand, “hijacking one’s ashes without notice could amount to stretching a customary practice too far,†he says. “And steps should be taken to see that it doesn’t become common practice in the future.â€
These are perhaps a few of the many things for the bench to consider. But even as the litigation goes under the gavel, it appears that the battle is being fought out on a wholly unbecoming pitch. “Family matters are best solved within the family,†Grover concludes.
Dhawan seems to agree. “It’s a very private matter that has been blown out of proportion,†he says, all the while hoping that the litigation sees a decent and quick settlement in the form of a fair and congenial understanding between the warring parties. “Finally, one also wishes that disputes such as these were never dragged into the court again!†the lawyer in him exclaims.
So much for the ‘professional’ aspect of Marquez’s philosophy.
Source: The Telegraph |
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Taphophilia?
taphophilia (taf′ō-fil′ē-ă)
ORIGIN:
From the Greek words taphos, meaning "tomb" or "sepulcher" and philia, meaning "attraction or affinity to something, in particular the love or obsession with something"
DEFINITION: 1. An excessive interest in graves and cemeteries. 2. A love or fondness for funerals, graves, and cemeteries. 3. In psychiatry, a morbid attraction to graves and cemeteries
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“The good he scorn'd Stalk'd off reluctant, like an ill-us'd ghost, Not to return; or if it did, its visits Like Those of angels, short, and far between.” Robert Blair (1699-1746) from
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